03. Dear Love, Why haven't I found you yet?

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I just read a post from a website recently, and it talks about love.
Since we all ask this same question especially after BREAK-UP, right?
Why haven't we found love yet? Maybe we believed that we already found it yet we lost it.
What love really means, by the way? Have you felt it? Have you experienced it?
I'll start in asking you: WHAT IS LOVE?
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Many people believe that love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. and Ms. Right comes along. No wonder why many people are still single. And that includes myself. :))
We fall in love. And we fall out of it.
According to Gila Manolson, Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person. Exactly! But how can we determine if that love is true? How can we fall in love yet fall out after when we first believed we have met the simple word: LOVE? How will we know if you already encountered Mr./Ms. Right? Are Mr. and Ms. Right for real?! Do they really exist?

Love is such a simple word with such a complicated meaning. And only you, yourself, can describe it when you are already in love.
Love comes in different ways and forms. Love has different meanings and views. Love perceives your feelings and thoughts. Some may say that it is a great feeling! It will make you happy, healthy, smile all day and all night, and spice up your boring life. It can destroy us as well, leaving us with a broken heart. But Love can also give us confidence, it can save us from stumble and unbeatable. You may be the most intelligent person in the world, but Love can make you idiot. You may be the strongest earthling in this planet, but it can make you weak in an urgent.
When we searched in our dictionaries, it says there that "Love is a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness." Whaaaaaaaaat?! Indeed love has complicated meaning.

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So why haven't we found LOVE yet? Did you give your first priority in your career? Are you afraid of break up? Do you love yourself too much? Or are you still in love with your EX?

For me, None of the above!
We haven't found love yet because it is not the right time yet. Why rush for love? Let us hold out for someone we feel who is perfect for us. When it is the right time, we'll meet the perfect match and everything will be right.
We are all fair in love because it is free and a precious gift from God. Maybe when we meet the Right Person, we can assure that he/she is what you are asking for the longest time, like how your mom meets your dad. There is no need for us to ask where love is because it is right there in front of us. And when that time comes, WE CAN SET OUR OWN DEFINITION OF LOVE.
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02. Empty mind.

I am thinking what post should I write today. I really really like to write another topic since I deleted my posts and made a new one last week. I am planning to write a love story yet I can't figure out what story should I be writing. I am planning to give advices, yet there are no messages in my mail.
WAAAAAAAAH!!!
Wat should I do?
I want to write a story in my mother tongue. It's easier. :))

You guys are free to give any suggestions!
Message me in my yahoo if you want some advices in your love life or what.

THANKYOU!

❤

BTW, here's my yahoo:

kairubsyu@yahoo.com

01. The ART OF MOVING ON.

When can you say that you are already OVER him/her?

REPLACE and then ERASE? PARTY ALL NIGHT? Throwing the presents that he/she gave you when you are still together? DATING a cool guy/gal? Crying every night? Staying ALONE?
I DON'T THINK SO.
Getting over heartbreak is all about your attitude. You can choose life, or you can drown in self pity and wither away.
BUT HOW DOES ONE MOVE ON?


Moving on is a simple thing they say. What it leaves behind is hard.
We’ve all been there. Breaking up with someone you love is one of the most painful situations you ever have to face. In the aftermath of rejection, the hurt, the misery, the loneliness and the feeling that the future just disappeared, look as though they’ll go on forever.

Why do breakups hurt so much, even when the relationship is no longer good? A breakup is painful because it represents the loss, not just of the relationship, but also of shared dreams and commitments. Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hope for the future. When these relationships fail, we experience profound disappointment, stress, and grief.

A breakup or divorce launches us into uncharted territory. Everything is disrupted: your routine and responsibilities, your home, your relationships with extended family and friends, and even your identity. A breakup brings uncertainty about the future. What will life be like without your partner? Will you find someone else? Will you end up alone? These unknowns often seem worse than an unhappy relationship.

Recovering from a breakup or divorce is difficult. However, it’s important to know (and to keep reminding yourself) that you can and will move on. But healing takes time, so be patient with yourself.

They say that there is no such thing as "MOVING ON" only "LETTING GO." I haven't prove that though. For me, yes, we can let go of the person, but the memories will kept on reminding us how we used to be with that person. The feelings may fade, yet the memories will stay. Having those memories will remember you the feelings that you used to have with that person.

After your relationship has taken a dive, being alone for a period of time may just be your best choice. You need to hear yourself think. What does your heart say? You may discover that much of that time will be spent on your knees. A lot of prayer is involved.

Do not dwell on what if, or I should have, or I could have. Don’t knock yourself down. Did you give too much? Or too little? It does not matter anymore. Lessons are learned. Turn the page.

I've read a novel by Melissa Cantor, The Breakup Bible, which taught me that there is ALWAYS a life after breakup. I suggest that you read the novel. (I'm not plugging. LOL) But I can say that, it changed my life though.

Here are some points that I would like to share from the book that could help you in a moving on process.

DR. EMORY EMERSON'S Ten Breakup Commandments:

1. Move out.
2. You cannot be friends.
3. Do not process this breakup together.
4. Do not bad-mouth your ex to other people.
5. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him.
6. Start an exercise regime.
7. Pursue an interest you could not have pursued while you and your ex were together.
8. Take a vacation.
9. Embrace change.
10. Go on a date --- there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

I know that these things aren't easy. Easier said than done. But i know that every little thing has its own purpose. If you think you aren't moved on yet, TIME WILL TELL YOU WHEN. Maybe a second or two, you will find yourself thinking ANOTHER PERSON. The DESERVING ONE.
So let that pain wash all over you and be done with it. Let the bitterness flow out of your system. IT'S OVER! FINISHED! Face the facts and move on.

"Moving on means getting to a place in life where you can look back, remember and rejoice. There are no regrets." - Daily Inquirer

By God’s grace, today I don’t cry because it’s over. I can smile because it happened. :)

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