01. The ART OF MOVING ON.

When can you say that you are already OVER him/her?

REPLACE and then ERASE? PARTY ALL NIGHT? Throwing the presents that he/she gave you when you are still together? DATING a cool guy/gal? Crying every night? Staying ALONE?
I DON'T THINK SO.
Getting over heartbreak is all about your attitude. You can choose life, or you can drown in self pity and wither away.
BUT HOW DOES ONE MOVE ON?


Moving on is a simple thing they say. What it leaves behind is hard.
We’ve all been there. Breaking up with someone you love is one of the most painful situations you ever have to face. In the aftermath of rejection, the hurt, the misery, the loneliness and the feeling that the future just disappeared, look as though they’ll go on forever.

Why do breakups hurt so much, even when the relationship is no longer good? A breakup is painful because it represents the loss, not just of the relationship, but also of shared dreams and commitments. Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hope for the future. When these relationships fail, we experience profound disappointment, stress, and grief.

A breakup or divorce launches us into uncharted territory. Everything is disrupted: your routine and responsibilities, your home, your relationships with extended family and friends, and even your identity. A breakup brings uncertainty about the future. What will life be like without your partner? Will you find someone else? Will you end up alone? These unknowns often seem worse than an unhappy relationship.

Recovering from a breakup or divorce is difficult. However, it’s important to know (and to keep reminding yourself) that you can and will move on. But healing takes time, so be patient with yourself.

They say that there is no such thing as "MOVING ON" only "LETTING GO." I haven't prove that though. For me, yes, we can let go of the person, but the memories will kept on reminding us how we used to be with that person. The feelings may fade, yet the memories will stay. Having those memories will remember you the feelings that you used to have with that person.

After your relationship has taken a dive, being alone for a period of time may just be your best choice. You need to hear yourself think. What does your heart say? You may discover that much of that time will be spent on your knees. A lot of prayer is involved.

Do not dwell on what if, or I should have, or I could have. Don’t knock yourself down. Did you give too much? Or too little? It does not matter anymore. Lessons are learned. Turn the page.

I've read a novel by Melissa Cantor, The Breakup Bible, which taught me that there is ALWAYS a life after breakup. I suggest that you read the novel. (I'm not plugging. LOL) But I can say that, it changed my life though.

Here are some points that I would like to share from the book that could help you in a moving on process.

DR. EMORY EMERSON'S Ten Breakup Commandments:

1. Move out.
2. You cannot be friends.
3. Do not process this breakup together.
4. Do not bad-mouth your ex to other people.
5. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him.
6. Start an exercise regime.
7. Pursue an interest you could not have pursued while you and your ex were together.
8. Take a vacation.
9. Embrace change.
10. Go on a date --- there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

I know that these things aren't easy. Easier said than done. But i know that every little thing has its own purpose. If you think you aren't moved on yet, TIME WILL TELL YOU WHEN. Maybe a second or two, you will find yourself thinking ANOTHER PERSON. The DESERVING ONE.
So let that pain wash all over you and be done with it. Let the bitterness flow out of your system. IT'S OVER! FINISHED! Face the facts and move on.

"Moving on means getting to a place in life where you can look back, remember and rejoice. There are no regrets." - Daily Inquirer

By God’s grace, today I don’t cry because it’s over. I can smile because it happened. :)

credits to: MY TUMBLR family for the images.